When You Don’t Know What to Do
I am a person of action. I always have been, which has sometimes led to fulfillment and, sometimes, my detriment! I’ve set goals, weathered self-doubt, and setbacks to make my visions come to life. I’ve also leapt into situations and experiences without enough thought and have gotten hurt through loss, wasted time and resources, and disappointment in myself. Every once in a while, I encounter a problem or heartache that interrupts my forward motion and I just don’t know what to do.
The blogs I’ve shared these past months have been about digging deeper into ourselves to create motion towards our values and our health (Goals, Fears, Quitting). At times, the ebb and flow of life can leave us without vision, hope, or clarity. Those can be the loneliest times. And we can learn that it is okay to be there.
Everyone experiences periods of darkness or overwhelm that can leave us feeling paralyzed. If we allow it, these unplanned times can lead us to pause and reflect. When we feel baffled and betrayed at the uncertainty of circumstances or relationship, it is to our benefit to get quiet. To wait it out. To watch what unfolds and respond only when we are ready.
How to Wait it Out When You Don’t Know What to Do
Feeling unsure about what to do can be frustrating. Allowing time and space to pass before taking action may be the best course of action. Here are some ideas to help you pass the time.
Take a Deep Breath and Get Calm
Deep breathing can help reduce stress and anxiety, allowing you to think more clearly.
Connect with Others
Talk to trusted friends, family, or counselors. They may offer their stories and different perspectives that can help you see your situation in a new light without acting.
Look at the Small Pieces
If your situation seems overwhelming, look at one aspect at a time to identify each need. This may help illuminate what is going on for you.
Trust Your Instincts
Sometimes, your gut feeling can be a valuable guide. If you have a strong intuition about a particular experience, don't dismiss it.
Sleep On It
If there is no immediate danger, take some time to think and reflect. Resetting the mind and body can offer a fresh perspective about how you feel and what you think.
Accept the Unknown
It's okay to not have all the answers. Sometimes, the best decision is to acknowledge your uncertainty and be patient while the situation develops.
Focus on What is Yours to Control
Concentrate on that which you have influence over and let go of people, places, or things that you can't control.
Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself and recognize that it's normal not to have all the answers immediately.
During this time of year that brings new opportunities to celebrate and spend time with people you care about, go gently with yourself. Listen to your heart when sorting through which activities or people you choose to give your time and energy. And when you don’t know what to do, just be. If you need extra support during this time of year, it’s normal. Please reach out today and we can talk together to find the support you may need.
In peace and good health,
Sandra